No One Can Be Everything For You

"Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings
infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they
succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for
each to see the other whole against the sky. "
~Rainer Maria Rilke

No one can be everything for you.

And to expect it puts a tremendous amount of pressure on any relationship.

It is understandable in relationships to be confused and you think you are looking for someone who will be "your other half," who will complete you, make you whole, make you look good, be everything for you, fix you. you name it. This is a huge misunderstanding, although common as the cold.

In an extraordinary relationship – a relationship that you have defined or re-defined – at the end of the day, you and your partner are two separate, whole, autonomous beings traveling down the same road together, looking out over the same cliff, holding hands, watching each other's backs.

You may be navigating the game of life together, giving and receiving love, intimacy, trust, commitment, but to operate as though you can own another, can control another, or are only complete with another, is a recipe for relationship fizzling and suffering.

Realizing that no one person can be everything for you is the first step in cultivating a rare relationship.

But there is much more.

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