Joy And Celebration As Your Touchstone

"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me
there lay an invincible summer."
~ Albert Camus

This section is about what it takes to be happy, to have a fulfilling and joyful life.

This section is about using Joy and Celebration as your touchstone.

So, I will lay another universal secret truth on you:

You are, at this very moment, at whatever point you think you are in your "spiritual evolution," in full control of your happiness.

Admit it. You think if you are good enough, or work hard enough, try hard enough, or get lucky enough, happiness and satisfaction will descend upon you from the sky in the form of something like a great partner, a fantastic job, a sexy body, lots of money, respect, etc.

Those things are cool, and fun to have. Have them, enjoy them, no reason not to.

But here's the rub: To the undiscerning eye, it looks like the external circumstances bring the joy. But it is the other way around. It is your happiness, your living in shameless celebration of your joy that brings those things to you.

And other cool things like being radiantly attractive, charismatic, on purpose in your life, fulfilled – also all come from you living your particular brand of joy.

I don't mean that your joy and celebration has to look like a full-tilt party with fireworks all the time. What I mean by fun, joy or celebration is ANYTHING in which you are lit-up and enjoying yourself. It is anything that is the opposite of down, depressed, confused, angry, despondent, or indifferent.

Now, you might not know the first thing about what makes you happy, or joyful, or what is fun for you, but that's OK. Most people don't.

The place to start is getting in intimate contact with your joy and cultivating whatever are your fun things. What is most celebratory for you, most sweet, sacred, peaceful, delicious, what makes you tick? It might be lofty, like Mother Teresa's joy in working with the poor and sick, but it might be small and simple, too. Only you know.

And if you don't know now, it is simply because you never looked or asked in the best way. I'll be so optimistic to say that all humans have a joy engine in them. The secret to happiness is to hook your cart up to your joy engine.

Simple, but not necessarily easy. If you want some extra support, I'll take you through an exercise to get you connected to your joy in week 8 of my free E-Course.

"It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day to day basis."
~ Margaret Bonnano

To be truly happy, you must take initiative, each day, to make a case for fun, for celebration.

The moment where you catch yourself not having fun, being whatever brand of miserable you are really good at, at the bottom of your particular downward spiral, that is the moment you recover your sanity and the key is to make a case for fun and celebration.

You probably won't feel like it. It is much easier to get your needs met through "negative" circumstances. Constant celebration of who you are and what you love takes fortitude, vigilance and muscle.

And here's where it gets even more interesting. You are not only in charge of your own happiness and joy, but you can do it for everyone around you as well.

I like to keep dropping great universal secrets, and here is another:

Charisma and self-confidence are simply a person approving of and enjoying themselves in the presence of another. Acting out what is most fun for you not only underscores your uniquely delicious attributes, but also simultaneously gives others permission to get on board your joyride.

I will go so far as to say that one of the most generous things you can do is enjoy and celebrate yourself in the presence of others.

Try it. Enjoy yourself in the presence of another, and suddenly everyone will be enjoying themselves. Your joy is contagious. You possess this Force within you. You can think of me as Yoda from Star Wars if it helps you. Whatever. Harness the Force already.

"Self-trust is the first secret of success."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

You can trust your joy.

You HAVE to trust your joy. Having an extraordinary relationship with yourself IS trusting yourself.

What you love will lead you brilliantly through your life, learning what you need to learn. It will offer you amazing experiences, showing you what your particular brand of happiness and success looks like.

To dig deeper into all of this, I invite you to sign up for my free E-Course, which walks you through all of these topics, and more. The practical exercises in it are designed to give you immediate shifts that you can use in your day-to-day life.

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