Getting On The Same Page As Your Partner

Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you.
They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.
~Author Unknown

The first question is, do you want to have this kind of extraordinary relationship?

Really, the answer may be a NO. Or it may be a NO for your partner.

It is not for everyone. Some people have different goals and ways to achieve their goals. And some people are not interested in going deep and doing the sometimes hard or painful work, and they will settle for OK. And some people prefer an easy, trophy on the arm type relationship. It takes all kinds.

But know where you stand, and where your partner stands.

And if your partner is a man, looking for more clarity around where he stands, he can check out For Guys Only.

There are many things the vehicle of relationship can offer you, many goals a relationship can help you work toward, like companionship, working on a shared project like raising a child or having a business together. It can support you both to learn, to grow, to work beyond issues that stop you in having intimacy and love in your life. It may be a singularly tangy concoction of a few or all of those.

But the point is to get on the same page with your partner, so you are not angling and expecting one thing and your partner another set of things, both of you feeling put upon, expecting something they are not interested in giving or experiencing, or something they don't even know you want.

Should you be with this person if you don't have the same goals?

I don't necessarily think so. You can have different criteria for what makes a great relationship, but the more you are clear about it, and understand the ways you share interests and goals, and the ways you don't, the more you have a lucid, co-created relationship. And the more you have a relationship that is based on both of your realities, your goals, and what is really true for you both.

And then your relationship supports you to be MORE because of being together, not LESS.

Want to get acquainted with the foundational elements for any relationship? Go on to The Three Pillars.

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