Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

Dear Goddess

moon_goddessWeekly Mini Relationship Tip, Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Dear Goddess:

I got this ode, below, in my email inbox from a friend in a hard, dark time, who just found out her hard-won tenure-track at a well-known university will not be renewed.

I just sent it to another friend (with the same name as the first friend!), whose workshops at well-known centers have been canceled, whose health is stressed and whose second book proposal got its first rejection.

And then I sent it to another friend (yep, with the same name as the other two!), who just had a miscarriage.

Smart, talented, hard-working women. Who are in the dark, hard part of the cycle. Perhaps you know one; perhaps you are one.

So, this week:

1. Read the following simple "Dear Goddess" letter.

2. Send it to a woman who could use it right now (maybe it's you).

"Dear Goddess: The lady reading this is beautiful, classy, strong and I love her.

Help her live her life to the fullest.

Please promote her and cause her to excel above her expectations.

Help her shine in the darkest places where it seems impossible to love.

Protect her at all times, and lift her up when she needs you the most.

And let her know that she walks with you, and that she will always be safe and beloved."

Have a sweet, sweet week, LiYana

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Thursday, September 10th, 2009

Love Before Love

2.BellyLoveMy boyfriend and I have been in a wonderful and rich conversation the last several months as we've been creating our engagement vows. Since engagement means you intend to marry, and we intend to marry consciously and create our own vows, we need those vows now, pre-marriage so we can be clear about what we are vowing to!

A friend just came back from a week at the hot springs. She took her computer, but vowed not to open it. Instead she renewed her marriage vows with herself.

Before we can love another, we must love our own self, truly, madly and deeply.

Love After Love, by Derek Walcott

"The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life."

So this week, celebrate Love Before Love – the love affair you must have with you, before you can have it with another:

1. Take a few moments to write out to what you are vowing (what you are committing to, what you are upholding, who you will be for you…), in your love affair with you.

2. Decide on a symbolic gesture (a ring out of a gum-ball machine, a pricey piece of bling, a bouquet of flowers, a calligraphed copy of your vows, framed…) and be trothed.

To your brilliant love affair,

Enjoy, LiYana

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Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009


200458998-001In the book, The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity, the first law is about “tithing” – giving 10% of what you’ve got, to where you received your “spiritual food.”

I’m taking a non-denominational, modern-day look at the concept of tithing – and spiritual food – and invite you to come along.

Scan your life for a moment. From where do you receive your spiritual food? Presence yourself to an element of your life you are so grateful for, it has you down on your knees, moved and inspired by its existence. What nourishes you, without which you wouldn’t be your greatest self?

It may be indeed a church or charity group, but spiritual food comes in a lot of unlikely forms: a group of girlfriends, a stranger on a park bench, your grandmother, a training you just took, your father, your yoga teacher, your lover, your business coach…

Traditionally, tithing was mostly in the form of money, but in the case of your spiritual food, it may not be money that makes the biggest difference. Take a second to think about – and feel into – this place/person/thing you get your spiritual food from; what type of contribution from you would make the biggest

As much as we are unique snowflakes, living our wondrous lives and contributing our greatest gifts, we didn’t get here on our own.

On whose shoulders are you standing now? And how can you in turn acknowledge, feed and nourish your relationship with that?

So, this week, I invite you:

1. Where do you get your “spiritual food?”
2. What’s your “10%” that you can give back – or give forward? Give that.

"I'm not trying to change the world. I'm just trying to bring something beautiful to my little corner of it."

– A relative of mine (father of two, husband, recently clean of a crack addiction)


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